Being Clumsy

Eating is a beautiful activity. It helps you connect with someone on a deeper level. If you have any kind of relationship, it is incomplete unless you eat with them.

Eating makes you vulnerable. You have to expose yourself.Hence, it is an intimate interaction. Your hands get messy, you drool on thefood, and sometimes you lick your hand.

Going out with friends, family or someone you want to sparkinterest – get down and have some food. Order what you like, no need toexperiment. Or try one new dish. You want to enjoy the dish, the talks andcreate a memory.

Not all the time. But enough. So this relationship grows toanother level. Trust grows deeper, you open up, and happy hormones jump out.

There is no set rule on when and how you go out eating. Butdo it fast. It sets up a good vibe. A place for you to hang out and have arelaxed time. When you are hungry, you can’t think better. A full stomachsparks your brain.

Yes, rice can make you sleepy. But if you push through thefirst hour, then you are energized as a kid. You ask questions, become moreintrigued and have a blast.

Eat At Home

A local restaurant is an excellent opportunity to go andhave a snack. Or you can try something top-notch depending on how generous youfeel.

In relationships, since eating together is a fantasticthing, why not keep upping the game of where you eat. Explore differentcuisines, newly opened places or go on tasting opportunities to find what youlike.

Or go on some food making experience and then eat them. Itembodies a more intimate experience. You fail, smile and come closer.

When you think you have to keep going to high-endrestaurants – you can take a detour and find new local places to eat. It’s thehighs and lows that keep the rhythm in check.

And when you are close enough in a relationship, you candrop the best place to eat. At home. Yours or theirs. Better if you can makefood together. This is the best thing you can do. Invite someone you care for –to lunch or dinner at your home. And let them have your cuisines and specialfood.

If you cook it with your own hand, the closeness is onanother level.

Clumsy

The stain on your collar is dreading. If it comes from thelips of someone else who isn’t your lover. When you are in a monogamouscommitted relationship, you are insecure. Not always because that would becomeparanoia but sometimes. Because let’s agree that we all are a little insecure.

But a stain of food on your clothes is fine. You can chooseto be angry and sad. And you can cry. But all of this would be an overreaction.You can manage a food stain on clothes.

Most people freak out when the dust catches their clothes.And it struck me odd. Because the clothes have a purpose – to protect yourmodesty, to keep you warm and catch the dust instead of your skin.

If between you and your clothes, one has to get dirty – itbetter be your clothes. You don’t want to get dirty all over your body.

When you are eating food, lost in conversation with someoneyou care for so much, you are bound to get clumsy.

Some juices will drip over, that morsel of food will fall,and the moist hands will touch the clothes. Not intentionally, of course.

And it doesn’t happen all the time. But when it happens, youallow it. You embrace it. Your relationships can never be perfect – that’s afairy tale. A little clumsy is all needed to keep it real, to feel it real.

Not Same

When you form a team to do work. Any work. The traditionalkind or the hobby one. You are dealing with humans. Of varied taste and ideas.

The understanding is different. Trying to let everyone seethe common goal is difficult. A hard problem. But that’s the start you need. Soyou can do the work, make change happen and level up.

You realize that the dynamics are different. And theapproach is new. The idea of doing work in a certain way is there. But foreveryone, the way is different. What you see as the best way is found to beokay.

And what your team members find the best way, you find itclumsy. At this point, you may want to stretch yourself and make it a point.

You are the leader, and you decide that the way you think isbest is the way to go. You repeat – being clumsy is bad. And you try to mouldothers into your way of doing things.

Or you can choose to understand being clumsy is fine. Aslong as your team members are being forward or learning something along theway.

The Better Way

What humans you are if you aren’t a little clumsy. Youstumble, fumble and go blank. The nervousness of speaking to a hundred peopleon stage doesn’t go away. You just shun the noise in your head. And accept theclumsiness.

Earlier, if things went south – you would panic. Now, youembrace it, make a joke about it and keep doing the work.

Perfection is a myth. You are only approaching it all thetime. As humans, you make errors – learn from them and make less of them. Andsometimes do brand new mistakes. When you say you are clumsy, it doesn’t meanyou are careless.

Whatever work you do, you put in your heart and make thebest of situation. Just that you are a little clumsy.

And while it might seem like a bad thing. Everyone shouldrealize and accept that we all are clumsy in at least something.

Let’s not judge fast. Be open and show generosity.