Choose Your Food For Thought

As you try to work harder on losing weight, you start to getconscious of your efforts. At the same time, many people will come to you andtry to mock you.

Along the lines of – you aren’t going to become thin anyway,starving yourself isn’t the right approach, if you can’t even run for one roundthen what good are you. Often this comes from a place of jealousy.

Because they were on the same journey, you are now. And theyfailed terribly. So they don’t want you to succeed.

And other times, it is fueled by anger or frustration ofsome other thing, so they need to vent it out on someone. You just happen to bethe outlet for them.

Out of all the criticism, mocking, and negative comments youget, about 80 to 90 percent fall in this category. Only a handful is genuinecritics who want you to do better. You won’t be good at finding them among allthe noise. So the best approach is to ignore the lot and work – as for thecritics, choose them yourself, maybe your spouse, friend or hire a trainer totell you the truth.

The Repetition

This thing keeps on repeating in various area of your life.Take, for example, your job. When you would be doing your job in the bestpossible way, someone will come to make you feel low.

When you would be going home after a long day for you,someone will interrupt to say you are going half day.

All of this happens because they are incompetent themselvesand they want to project it to others. Also, when they can see you feel lowbecause of their remarks, their sinister mind becomes happy.

The sane thing to do is to pick your battles. If you fightwith everyone, then you will be stressed, and the real work won’t get done. Soignore most of them. Be graceful when you choose to reply to someone who isvery harsh.

And make sure you silently complain about their behavior toyour boss. Along with the report on your work, so your appraisal doesn’t gethampered.

You don’t fight barking dogs with barking. You call theconcerned department to take them away. Slowly they will stop their remarkswhen they realize you aren’t bothered and instead get more focused on yourwork. Their ego won’t handle this indirect shaming.

Food For Thought

Often the people who are attacking you are using derogatoryterms, and it seems natural to reply, them in similar words.

But that way, you are letting those narrative, words, andfeelings inside you. Instead, you can choose to ignore or choose better,relevant words. For example, when they remark something rough about your personality,you may reply – anyway did you complete your report, which is delayed, the bosswas asking.

This way, you aren’t letting yourself down to their level.And since this is a public discourse, they will be more humiliated because youpointed out their flaws in the work they were appointed to do.

Or you can simply walk past them and don’t respond. Ignoringsomeone’s presence hurts them.

But you are doing this to bad people. Either way make apoint to showcase your boss your work and the lack of work by them subtly.

Your discourse, reply, and attitude will make you the personwith those qualities. Choose them wisely; don’t let others choose it for you.